How do you avoid the most embarrassing situation you can imagine?
Do you cover it up? Perhaps deny it or lie about it?
Why not just avoid getting into the embarrassing situation in the first place?
This last option seems like the best place to start, for me. But sometimes avoiding the possibility of being embarrassed stands in contrast to the great opportunity or situation we really want to produce… or at least it seems that way to us (me).
With respect to social media (and blogging in particular), “getting out there” to me means writing in a way that:
- Is simultaneously genuine and expressive
- Displays humility as well as confidence in my strengths
- Offers help to take care of others’ concerns
- Leaves a huge opening to learn from their perspectives
- Shows proper respect for people, their dignity and the knowledge they offer
Meanwhile, I have to accept that I am (we all are) in a current situation built on a history of actions and accomplishments that precede me, helping others to form assessments of me and what I write.
To the extent I “think” my past work does not describe all of me, there are many ways that it does more effectively than much that I could write in one or a few blog posts.
In addition, the help that I want to be to others and the offers that I want to make to others may not spring directly from the obvious or commonplace characteristics of my past.
So does every post or tweet that I make further cement my past, or actually open up possibilities for my future?
To me, perhaps the most embarrassing situation is the one in which felt I could not show up genuinely, accepting my limitations and my flaws… and then got in over my head.
It happens from time to time with everybody in small ways, but with regards to social media maybe it shows up as concerns over what to post, what to comment, what to tweet… how to engage???
Now I imagine a situation in which people on the web can make an accurate assessment of my strengths and abilities. My accomplishments could speak for themselves, and I could be confident to just be myself, and write and engage others from my soul.
There would be no room for embarrassment, no fear of posting a comment or a tweet, no concern for hiding. To the extent what I produce is valued by others, my networks are strong and healthy, working together as we move in our careers.
Why hide? Get out there and add a comment to this post.